Something has always been wrong with my xr500. It sometimes searches upwards to a 200 ms ping. Even when i turn off QOS and GEO filtering off which tells me it's something In my advanced settings they i cannot quite understand. I'm on a gigabit connection thru spectrum. I've checked the timezone which is eastern United states. My friends get quick matches and yet with everything off it takes several minutes for me to find a match. Often times it will take me to a very laggy server. I do play with all sorts of people across the United States and Canada.
Windows 11
10800k i9 10 core liquid cooled
4080 gpu
32 gigs of 4000 mhz gaming ram
On a z490 carbon msi board