ok I just went through and removed all network connections and soft reset my ps4
rebooted the xr500
deleted all the geo filters
logged out
setup everything again with just the ps4 on wired
and its working now.
I wonder if the xr500 was keeping old settings because I gave my ps4 a different static address
also with my ps4 off and disconnected from ethernet, I couldnt remove the device from device manager
I'll keep testing and re-add my pc and xbox to see what it does
Yea all NAT is open
PS4 is type 2