I've unticked the share excess button on both, and it continues to allow it. I've also checked to make sure by closing the page and going back in to make sure it didn't retick itself. I've unchecked both my wife and my phone's mobile data to make sure it wasnt getting that, put them to zero on the router with excess share off, and it allows them both access like they both have full access.
I had to factory reset today, and after getting everything back up and running the congestion control part doesn't seem to be working anymore. Even when I take 100 percent of the bandwidth for upload and download now it still allows access, like nothing was done, while before it wouldn't.